Written by Dr Sara Tookey As a psychologist who integrates Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) into my practice and compassion into my own life values-system, I've witnessed firsthand the transformative power that developing compassion can have on a person's overall well being, mental health and in enabling us to heal wounds from our pasts.  Compassion Focused Therapy Approach Theoretical Basis of CFT The Costs of Self-Criticism & Isolation The Benefits of Self-Compassion Who Can Benefit from CFT? Experiencing CFT in Session Conclusion & Summary Stay Connected / Get Help Now References for this article Compassion Focused Therapy Approach Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) is a modern therapeutic approach, developed by psychologist Dr Paul Gilbert   in the 1990s.  The approach emphasises cultivating compassion to alleviate human suffering, and is grounded in evolutionary psychology, affective neuroscience, psychology, and Buddhist traditions. CFT is considered a "third-wave" cognitive-behavioural therapy, emphasising mindfulness, acceptance, and emotional awareness. CFT's core objective is to cultivate self-compassion, compassion for others, and the ability to receive compassion. It views compassion as a deep sensitivity to suffering coupled with a commitment to alleviate and prevent it. By intentionally nurturing compassion towards ourselves, others, and receiving it, we can skilfully respond to pain in transformative ways. Critically, CFT recognises that our difficult experiences have impacted us through no fault of our own. With a compassionate understanding that we've done our best, it supports finding new ways to reduce these impacts and respond to ourselves with greater care. Theoretical Basis of CFT The Evolutionary Roots of Compassion From an evolutionary perspective, our capacity for compassion and caring for suffering enabled early humans to band together, increasing chances of survival. Tribes high in compassion traits like empathy and reciprocity outlasted less cooperative groups ( Wilson et al., 2014 ).  Humans have an innate, biological predisposition toward forming connections and social bonds - we are literally wired to connect. In present times, substantial evidence demonstrates that lacking compassion for ourselves and others exerts major tolls on our mental and physical health. Emotion Regulation Systems CFT is based on the idea that our well-being is influenced by three emotional regulatory systems (Gilbert, 2014) : The Threat System  (focused on detecting threat to keep us safe), centred in the amygdala The Drive System  (focused on resources and incentives), located in midbrain regions The Soothing System (focused on connection and comfort), involving the prefrontal cortex, vagus nerve, and oxytocin release Many mental health struggles reflect having an overactive threat system which over-detects threats, telling us we’re not safe when we are. The key components of CFT include education on the concept of compassion, understanding the human mind's evolutionary perspective, exploring the roles of shame and self-criticism, and learning to balance these three emotional regulatory systems. How our Brains Regulate Emotions At birth, our brains are wired with a "threat-protection system" located in the amygdala and other l imbic system structures .  This emotional regulation system detects threats and responds with instincts like fight, flight, or freeze responses to ensure survival.  In childhood, our caretakers ideally help us develop a "self-soothing system" - where the sound of their caring voice and touch calms our distress. However, for many, we weren’t properly soothed as a child, and so did not learn how to do this for ourselves. Early attachment trauma, neglect, or abuse means our threat system becomes over-developed while our ability to self-soothe fails to develop.  We can then face an imbalance between the inner critic voice - constantly scanning for danger and flaws - and an inner nurturing voice. Strengthening our self-compassion muscle through CFT exercises is akin to learning to speak to ourselves as a caring parent would, quieting inner distress. The Costs of Self-Criticism and Isolation Research shows high self-criticism strongly predicts increased depression ( Kim et al., 2011 ; Kim et al., 2020 ), anxiety disorders ( Cox et al., 2004 ; Thakur and Baumann, 2022 ), suicide risk ( O'Neill et al., 2021 ), addiction relapse ( Snoek et al., 2021 ), and inflammatory disease ( Trindade et al., 2021 ). Brain imaging studies found that self-critical neural patterns light up areas linked to threat response rather than reasoning centres - showing that when we are self-critical, we are actually attacking ourselves (e.g. Longe, 2009 ). A global review found chronic social isolation increases mortality risk over 15 years as much as smoking 15 cigarettes a day  ( Hold-Lunstad et al., 2015 ). Our biological health suffers without compassionate connections. The Benefits of Self-Compassion One of the most important things we can do in therapy is help people learn to be compassionate towards themselves. As children, we're often taught to be kind, courteous, and generous to others. Rarely are we taught that extending kindness inwardly, to ourselves is equally as vital. Many of us are conditioned by family and society to view self-compassion as selfish, indulgent, or weak - failing to recognise its inherent value and strength for wellbeing. Self-compassion is also exceptionally difficult to do, partly due to these ingrained messages and partly because our wiring for social connection makes compassion for others easier. Yet cultivating self-compassion is essential for healing and growth. By intentionally building self-compassion skills through practices like supportive self-talk  ( Tod et al., 2011 ), writing compassionate letters to ourselves ( Swee et al., 2023 ), or loving-kindness meditation ( Hoffman et al., 2011;   Hutcherson et al., 2008 ) , we can strengthen neural circuits that evoke the caring presence of our "compassionate self." ( Stevens et al., 2018 ) Additional well-documented benefits of self-compassion include: Reduced depression ( MIllard et al., 2023 ) Lower addiction relapse rates ( Craig et al. 2020 ; Chen et al., 2019 ) Buffered emotional reactivity to stress ( Cosely et al., 2010 ; Kirby et al., 2017 ) Increased motivation toward self-improvement goals ( Breines and Chen, 2012 ) Deeper self-insight and life satisfaction ( Frank et al., 2021 ) Reduction in physiological pain perception (e.g.   Maratos et al., 2020 ). You can read more about the importance of the compassion focused approach in our recent article: Men’s Mental Health: Challenging stigma, learning vulnerability and giving compassion . Developing the Compassionate Self CFT founder Dr. Paul Gilbert uses the metaphor of developing our “compassionate self” to represent accessing wisdom, strength, warmth, and the drive to care for wellbeing in the face of suffering - our own and others’.  When we engage in practices like loving-kindness meditation , self-compassion journaling , or soothing touch , we activate and reinforce neural pathways of emotional resilience and connection. We re-pattern self-relating in ways that support coping, healing, taking responsibility, and living deeply. Who Can Benefit from CFT? CFT is beneficial for those struggling with high self-criticism, shame, low self-esteem, mood disorders, trauma, and more. At its core, CFT works by accessing and strengthening our innate capacity for compassion. The CFT approach recognises that often, lack of self-compassion reflects early childhood attachment patterns  and difficult life events that have trained our threat system to respond to safe situations with a threat response, detect threats where there is safety and to attack us ( Kim et al., 2020 ). With compassion focused exercises, we can retrain our brains to respond to ourselves with the same care and kindness we might show a good friend. Experiencing CFT in a session: In CFT the compassionate therapist models compassion skills and nurtures the development of compassion within the client. The therapist guides the client through mindfulness practices, vivid imagery exercises, and behavioural techniques. The goal is to help activate the client's self-soothing system, which can counterbalance excessive reactions driven by threat perception or unhelpful urges. This allows us to care for ourselves in harder moments with the warmth of compassion, quieting inner distress. In turn, drive system energy can flow toward meaningful pursuits (the things that really matter to us)  rather than an unending strive for perfectionism. CFT enables clients to cultivate an "inner ally" - a compassionate inner voice that can replace the harsh "inner critic" that often fuels shame, self-blame and negative self-talk. By relating to themselves and others with greater kindness and empathy, clients can improve self-esteem, reduce anxiety, and boost motivation for positive personal growth. The therapy provides a toolkit of compassionate mind/body exercises that clients can use to emotionally navigate life's challenges. The supportive inner ally acts as a psychological safety net during difficult times, countering negative thought patterns with a soothing, understanding perspective. This compassionate self-to-self relating helps create a sense of emotional security and resilience. Conclusion & Summary Compassion Focused Therapy offers a powerful approach to alleviating human suffering by helping individuals cultivate greater self-compassion, compassion for others, and the ability to receive compassion. By intentionally strengthening our "compassionate self" through practices like compassionate imagery, letter writing, and mindfulness, we can counteract harsh self-criticism, reduce anxiety and shame, enhance emotional resilience, and foster deeper connections with ourselves and others. CFT can be particularly beneficial for those struggling with low self-esteem, mood disorders, trauma, perfectionism, or excessive self-blame and inner conflict. At its core, CFT helps retrain our minds to respond to personal suffering with the same kindness and care we would offer a loved one, enabling us to navigate life's challenges with greater self-compassion, motivation, and overall well-being. Note: This article is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. Always consult with a qualified mental health professional for personalized guidance. WANT TO LEARN MORE? Below are recommended readings if you're interested in learning more about Compassion Focused Therapy and how you can implement skills of compassion to improve your mental health and support wellbeing. The Compassionate Mind Workbook: A step-by-step guide to developing your compassionate self - By Elaine Beaumont and Chris Irons The Compassionate Mind -By Paul Gilbert The Compassionate Mind Approach to Difficult Emotions: Using Compassion Focused Therapy Paperback - By Chris Irons Book an initial 30 minute consultation with one of our Compassion-Focused-Therapy Psychologists Today Initial Therapy Consultation We welcome your thoughts and reflections on this therapeutic perspective. 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Written by Dr Sara Tookey November is Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month, also known as 'Movember'. While Movember often focuses on mustache-growing campaigns, its purpose is to raise awareness of men’s health issues, including mental health. Men face disproportionately high rates of mental health challenges and suicide compared to women, yet stigma prevents many men from seeking help. Providing compassionate, male-centered mental health resources and support is crucial. The Problem: Stats on Men's Mental Health Patriarchy Harms Men Too Barriers to Receiving Help Compassion for Men's Mental Health Compassion Focused Therapy Conclusion Recommended Readings Stay Connected / Get Help Now References for this article The Problem: Statistics on Men's Mental Health According to the Office for National Statistics (ONS, 1 ) in the UK, men account for around 75% of registered suicides , with an average of 84 men dying by suicide per week. Men aged 45-49 have the highest suicide rates, at 25.5 deaths per 100,000 in 2019 ( 1 ) . A report from the World Health Organization estimated that men are 1.8 times more likely to take their own lives when compared to compared to women, a fact supported by a recent review of research into men's mental health. Men also have higher rates of substance abuse disorders. Per the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), men are over twice as likely as women to be heavy drinkers and three times more likely to have a cannabis use disorder (2) . Despite these statistics, men are less likely to access mental health services. Only 36% of referrals to NHS talking therapies are for men ( 3 ). Outdated stigma prevents many men from seeking help. Patriarchy Harms Men Too While patriarchal structures privilege men over women in many ways, rigid masculine norms also have detrimental effects on men's mental health and wellbeing. Research over the past 20 years has shown that traditional masculinity – marked by stoicism, competitiveness, dominance and aggression – is largely harmful for men ( 4 ). Cultural norms and gender stereotypes have been circulating for generations, and they can be toxic for men and their personal relationships ( 4 ). When it comes to processing emotions, there are different expectations for men and women. Women are often viewed as “sensitive,” and therefore society finds female expression of feelings, like sadness or fear more acceptable. But men, who are seen as strong and fearless ("masculine") are not encouraged to outwardly express their emotions. Men have been socialised to be strong, fearless, to restrict emotional expression and vulnerability, and just "get on with it". However, restricting emotions and feelings can be detrimental to a man's mental health. Researchers have also found men who conform more to masculine norms see risky behaviors like heavy drinking as more normal and are more likely to engage in them ( 5 ), further endangering their physical and mental health. This masculine avoidance of vulnerability extends to seeking psychological help. Men who embody traditional masculine ideals are more negative about mental health services than men with flexible gender attitudes ( 6 ) and as a result are less likely to seek help ( 7 ). Male socialisation that emphasises self-sufficiency leads many men to suffer privately rather than seeking crucial support. For example, norms discouraging emotional expression teach boys to suppress feelings rather than develop healthy coping strategies. This makes men less likely to seek help for mental health issues out of shame and increases their risk of commiting suicide ( 8 ) by denying them access to crucial support structures. Beliefs that seeking help shows weakness ( 9 ) discourages men from seeking professional and social support, leading them to feel more isolated and alone in their struggles. Patriarchy also defines masculine value largely by status, strength, and career success ( 9 ). When men fail to achieve these narrow goals, they may experience profound self-doubt and low self-worth, despite accomplishments in other areas like relationships or community. Rigid thinking defines some emotions, like empathy, as exclusively "feminine," preventing human connection and preventing them from accessing crucial social connection and support. Dr Fredric Rabinowitz, former president of the American Psychological Society and steward of the 2005 guidelines for the Society for Psychological Study of Men and Masculinities emphasises how men are raised to be "self-sufficient and able to take care of themselves" and that "any sense that things aren't OK needs to be kept secret". Rabinowitz says. “Men who keep things to themselves look outward and see that no one else is sharing any of the conflicts that they feel inside. That makes them feel isolated. They think they’re alone. They think they’re weak. They think they’re not OK. They don’t realize that other men are also harboring private thoughts and private emotions and private conflicts.” Stephanie Pappas, writer of the American Psychological Association Journal, highlights the the "tragic ramifications of these private conflicts" when she writes: "These private conflicts can have tragic ramifications. Though men report less depression than women, they complete suicide at far higher rates than women, and the numbers are moving in the wrong direction" ( Stephanie Pappas, 2019, APA, Vol 50, No. 1 ). Dismantling restrictive masculine norms liberates men to embrace their full humanity. Supporting boys to process and express their emotions in healthy ways ( 10 ), have diverse interests, and nurture intimate bonds without shame leads to improved mental health outcomes. Constructing masculinity as multifaceted and flexible rather than oppositional to femininity benefits men and society as a whole. Compassion in Men's Mental Health Compassion-focused therapy (CFT) is an integrative psychotherapy approach developed by psychologist Dr. Paul Gilbert that combines research and tools from psychology, neuroscience, and Buddhism. CFT focuses on cultivating compassion towards oneself and others as an emotional resource for managing difficulties like shame, self-criticism, trauma, and mental health issues. (I will delve more into CFT in future articles- so stay tuned) The Founder of Compassion Focused Therapy, Dr Paul Gilbert says: “If you want one recipe to make you unhappy, it would be to focus on the things you criticize or don’t like about yourself.” Paul A. Gilbert, The Compassionate Mind CFT can be particularly helpful for men struggling with mental health difficulties due to its emphasis on self-compassion ( 11 ). Rigid masculine norms that discourage emotional expression and help-seeking and encourage perfectionism and career status often lead men to be very self-critical about themselves and their own mental health struggles. CFT teaches men to treat themselves with the same understanding they would show a friend, thereby reducing shame ( 12 ). CFT uses evolutionary psychology and affect regulation systems theory to explain why self-criticism develops and how to strengthen inner compassion ( 13 ). Mindfulness, imagery, and behavior change exercises aim to activate the self-soothing system to balance excessive threat and drive system reactions. A compassionate therapist models and nurtures compassion skills development. Research employing CFT in the male population has shown that s elf-compassion partially mediates the relationship between mental health shame and mental health problems ( 12 ) and improves wellbeing ( 11 ) . By focusing on self-care rather than self-blame, CFT can make therapy more accessible for men. It provides tools to manage unhelpful thought patterns while reducing shame and stigma as barriers to treatment. Integrating self-compassion into men's mental health services may improve mental health treatment outcomes and save lives. What does CFT look like in the therapy session? For many of my male clients, the first step in seeking help for their mental health is admitting that they need help and this can often be the most difficult step. This is because, admitting they need help contradicts the gender norms they grew up with, which highlighted traditional masculine ideals of strength, control, and self-reliance (often masquerading as "resilience"). Some of the most valuable work we can do in therapy is to support people to learn how to bring compassion inward toward themselves. Some us are taught as children, the importance of offering courtesy, kindness and generosity to others, but few are ever taught the importance of showing this same kindness to ourselves. Many are taught by their caregivers and by their social groups that self-compassion is an "indulgence", "selfish" or "soft" and "weak". CFT uses mindfulness, relaxation, and imagery exercises to develop inner compassion. Men cultivate an "inner ally" to replace the "inner critic" that fuels shame and self-blame. By relating to themselves and others with more kindness and empathy, men can improve self-esteem, reduce anxiety, and boost motivation for positive change. Integrating self-compassion into therapy gives men an emotional toolkit to navigate life's challenges. The inner ally's supportive voice counters negative thoughts and creates an emotional safety net during difficult times. Compassion-focused approaches build on men's strengths while addressing destructive shame and self-criticism. Conclusion & Summary Challenging outdated masculine stereotypes and stigma against mental illness is key to improving men's mental health. Offering compassionate, male-centered care can encourage men to seek help early, preventing mental health crises and suicide. Supporting men's mental health requires understanding gender-specific barriers and providing tailored resources. With compassion and understanding, we can create a society where men feel comfortable prioritizing mental wellness. Note: This article is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. Always consult with a qualified mental health professional for personalised guidance. WANT TO LEARN MORE? Below are recommended readings exploring the impact of Masculinity and Men's Mental Health. I Don't Want to Talk About it: Overcoming the secret legacy of male depression, by Terrence Real The Boy With the Topknot by Sathnam Sanghera, and Toast by Nigel Slater Stay Connected With compassion and understanding, we can create a society where men feel comfortable seeking mental health support. What are your tips for supporting men's mental health? Please share your thoughts with us and please let us know what other topics you like to read about in our blog! READ MORE from our Blog HERE! And Subscribe to our newsletter to keep up to date on the latest news, events, content, resources and features from True North Psychology Do you need therapeutic support? See MAN HEALTH for UK-based male-focused mental health support groups, hotlines and online communities where men can find solidarity and resources. Book a consultation with one of our therapists below. Initial Therapy Consultation References 1. https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/birthsdeathsandmarriages/deaths/bulletins/suicidesintheunitedkingdom/2019registrations#main-points 2. https://www.samhsa.gov/data/report/2019-nsduh-detailed-tables 3. https://www.menshealthforum.org.uk/key-data-mental-health 4. Pappas, S. (2019). APA issues first-ever guidelines for practice with men and boys. CE CORNER, APA, Vol 50, No. 1. https://www.apa.org/monitor/2019/01/ce-corner 5. Mahalik JR, Burns SM, Syzdek M. Masculinity and perceived normative health behaviors as predictors of men's health behaviors. Soc Sci Med. 2007 Jun;64(11):2201-9. doi: 10.1016/j.socscimed.2007.02.035. Epub 2007 Mar 26. PMID: 17383784. 6. Yousaf, O., Popat, A., & Hunter, M. S. (2015). An investigation of masculinity attitudes, gender, and attitudes toward psychological help-seeking. Psychology of Men & Masculinity, 16 (2), 234–237. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0036241 7. Springer KW, Mouzon DM. "Macho men" and preventive health care: implications for older men in different social classes. J Health Soc Behav. 2011 Jun;52(2):212-27. doi: 10.1177/0022146510393972. Epub 2011 Apr 13. PMID: 21490311. 8. Sagar-Ouriaghli I, Godfrey E, Bridge L, Meade L, Brown JSL. Improving Mental Health Service Utilization Among Men: A Systematic Review and Synthesis of Behavior Change Techniques Within Interventions Targeting Help-Seeking. Am J Mens Health. 2019 May-Jun;13(3):1557988319857009. doi: 10.1177/1557988319857009. PMID: 31184251; PMCID: PMC6560805. 9. https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/mens-mental-health#barriers-to-access 10. https://kidshelpline.com.au/parents/issues/helping-kids-identify-and-express-feelings 11.J Smith , S Lad , S ; Hiskey , J A Barry , R Kingerlee , M Seager , L Sullivan (2019). Of compassion and men: using compassion focused therapy in working with men The Palgrave Handbook of Male Psychology and Mental Health, p. 483 - 507 12. Kotera, Y., Green, P., & Sheffield, D. (2019). Mental health shame of UK construction workers: Relationship with masculinity, work motivation, and self-compassion. Journal of Work and Organizational Psychology, 35 (2), 135–143. 13. Chris Irons (2014). Royal College of Psychiatrists, publication. https://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/docs/default-source/members/sigs/spirituality-spsig/spirituality-special-interest-group-publications-chris-irons-compassion-evolutionary-understandings-and-cft.pdf

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